My client, John, once came to me with a conundrum.   He and his wife had attended a dinner party with one of her closest friends. Before sitting down at the table, he greeted her warmly and exclaimed: “Anne, you’ve lost weight! You look great!”   Later, in the car, his wife was furious. She told him her friend felt so insulted and she never wanted to see him again.   Shaken and confused, he said to me, “I thought I was complimenting her! I don’t understand what I did wrong. W