When was the last time you looked at someone you know well—and allowed yourself to see them anew? No rehearsing yesterday’s argument. No deciding what they’ll say next. Just a moment of curiosity about the person in front of you. Last Sunday, I officiated my first Taoist wedding ceremony. As part of the ceremony, I asked the couple to look into each other’s eyes as if they were seeing each other for the first time. "For a moment, set aside everything you think you k